But, what is a mother?
Well, my husband doesn't call me the "googlemaster" for nothing! Yes, I googled the definition of "mother".
I have not given birth nor am I the origin of any other human (or animal for that matter). However, I have protected, I have nurtured and cared with tenderness. I have "parented" a child that I did not give birth to.NOUN1. female parent: a woman who has a child, or a female animal that has produced young2. woman acting as parent: a woman who acts as the parent of a child to whom she has not given birth3. originator: a woman regarded as the creator, instigator, or founder of something4. origin of something: the cause, source, or origin of something"Necessity is the mother of invention."5. protector: something that protects and nourishes like a motherVERB1. take care somebody with tenderness: to look after somebody with great care and affection, sometimes to an excessive degree2. give birth to baby: to give birth to and bring up a baby3. bring something about: to give rise to something
Ok, so according to this defintion, I could be called a mom and there have been times when I really did feel like one.
This weekend was not one of those times. This weekend I struggled to believe it when my own mother said, "Happy Mother's Day" to me. I started asking myself, "does someone need to call me mom so that I feel like one?" I'm still not sure I know the answer to that.
All I can do is be myself. If that means that I "mother" my step-sons even when they don't want it or understand it, I will do it because I love them and care about them. If that means that I call myself Marley's mom and people look at me like I'm crazy, too bad for the non-dog lovers. If that means that I still long to be called "mommy" for real, then so be it. I will embrace that need and continue to hope for it.